What Adoption Is Teaching Me

To say that our adoption journey has been a long one would be an understatement.

Initially I thought what would be a 12- 18-month process start to finish, has now officially taken three years – and we’re not quite to the finish line yet (#10 on the wait list; #1 for a boy).  Despite our particular challenges of adopting internationally (we changed placement agencies as well as countries!), we’ve witnessed God’s faithfulness and provision in profound ways – all of which has served to affirm God’s continuous call upon our lives to influence and be influenced by the one child He has place in our hearts who might otherwise not have hope for a future.

Which got me thinking...

What am I learning through this process?

  1. Pencil in my plans. I'm learning the wisdom behind Proverbs 16:9 - The human mind plans the way, but the LORD directs the steps. My wife and I are planners - each in our own way - but planners nonetheless.  There are seemingly endless policies and procedures that must be followed. Adoption requires planning - lots of planning. But our plans are best made not in permanent ink, but in pencil.  
     
  2. Patience. I am a patient person.  I’m pretty sure I can out-patience anyone.  Wanna find out? Try me. Adoption tests your patience and I’m learning to be patient with God…

    with representatives from all our respective agencies…

    with myself…

    and most of all…

    with my wife whose thoughts, dreams, and conversations are rightly consumed by our soon-to-be-son. She’s the one who first believed God was calling our family to something bigger & I love her for believing.  

     
  3. Perseverance.  I’m learning that in order to run the adoption race with perseverance, then Jesus must be my focus – not crossing the adoption “finish line.”  Jesus is the goal. Not getting the referral. Not traveling to Ethiopia. I must keep my eyes and my focus on Jesus.